Posts Tagged ‘MEN’

Equal Rights in Matrimony…….

May 28, 2013

“EQUAL RIGHTS TO ALL – a mark of  CIVILIZED SOCIETY”

From many decades, there is continues hue & cry for equal rights  from women organisations(mainly for Wives)  but without going into the veracity of their claims, let us first give a thought to following facts:-

On the one hand, the responsibilities or duties of a husband in society is still remained intact what it was in age-old society  i.e. feeding, caring, protecting and raising his family and which are enforced though special matrimonial biased laws.

 While, on the other hand, wife, is legally made free from any kind of responsibilities or duties of matrimony or family and are enjoying one-sided full rights to dictate her terms or break the family or marriage without any penalty.

This becomes more clear when we analyze the present scenario of Indian society from an unbiased logical mind that:-

  • The so called women empowerment has ensured(socially as well as legally) equal rights to earn and opportunities to women.

  • There are  many women up liftment policies and programmes like, free education, award schemes for female Child, support for training & employment, Stree Shakti Programme, gender budgeting, short stay shelters, women’s right in paternal property, reservation in political sphere(panchayats, vidhan sabha, etc.)

  • The government and media always remain keen to bring to forefront any trivial cause of women so as to garner votes and viewers.

  • Government is getting enough of free funding in the name of women empowerment from foreign countries and  is spending overwhelmingly for so many years for these activities.

  • The solution to bring about equality in the wisdom of government & feminists is to frame and enforce more & more gender biased laws.

Whereas, the earning avenues for Males(from where he will be able to discharge all the legal  responsibility attributed to him) which were earlier mainly available to him, is now depleted to say 50% and is being shared 50-50 or even more by females (this all, while the population growth is ever increasing). Hence, broadly speaking,  it resulted in less than 50% earning avenues left with Males.

So in this present scenario, Why only male is still made responsible for maintaining his family ?

More so, on a level playing ground, in today’s context, a Marriage is a contract between two individuals to discharge equal responsibilities and avail equal rights to make a successful family, however, the same should also be true in case of a failed marriage(without going into the reasons Why?).

But in India, failed marriage is made sole liability of Male , Why?

  • He has to pay maintenance, ligation expenses, residence etc. during dispute or alimony after divorce Why?

  • When the said marriage is broken and both are not discharging their responsibilities of that matrimony, why only husband is penalized ?

and in case of any child from this matrimony,

  • why not  responsibility of welfare of child is shared on 50:50 basis ?

To these very questions, the reasoning or big answer from feminists or government is to stop women being destitute or beggared but it could not be understood then what for women centric welfare policies, programmes, schemes involving huge funding are there ?

So, isn’t it rational that either Government should scrap all women upliftment (so called women empowerment,) programmems if these not bearing the desired fruits or it should make women legally, equal responsible at par with Males in the family affairs and matrimonial matters alongwith similar parallel statutory constitutional bodies for male rights too?

Undermining MAN – the BIGGEST IGNORANCE

May 27, 2013
A Man for centuries is an easy target  to criticize & blame and is   bearing the heat of criticism and brand labeling as a predator, ignoring the  very fact that it is MAN who has :

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  • Strived hard since the stone age  to meet hunger, luxury, protection and social standing of  his family, thereby a society, a nation & the world.
  • Run the world and always have; men are smarter, stronger, and more aggressive than women; feminists could never have got anything they wanted if men hadn’t permitted them to have it.
  • Made the life outside home easy by investing both physically as un-tired labour and intellectually as technology. Before invention of many machines & tools, a lot of work required more muscle power than women have; their engaging in it was impossible before men made it easier.
  • The MEN besides playing a successful role of caretaker for his family has gifted this world with all kind of  amenities alongwith honor and dignity out of his own sweat and un-tiring energy.The Man has sacrificed his life for protection and honor of his family for centuries.
  • The Man has never done anything exclusively for himself or for his individual development or ease but has done everything for whole of the society & world.
  • Surprisingly, now when outside world is made so easy to be in, by MAN, the unscrupulous identities called “Feminists” started crying women rights, equality, deprivation etc. etc. Why not this hue & cry was there, when  livelihood or survival  was hard and manual fatigue and great endurance was involved in every single action outside ?

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  • More ironically, theses feminists  want to achieve their so called equality, empowerment etc. by blaming everything on the very MAN who has relentlessly strived hard for whole society in general.
  • Even today, the poor MAN is so deeply involved in fulfilling his old traditional duties and responsibilities that HE knowingly, but due to ages old cultivated sense of being provider & protector is ignoring the very fact that the time has come when he need to join hands and come together to fight against these feminists and the governments run by them who are misleading the world for their ulterior motives and are proving fatal to the family & society for which he is striving so hard.

It is the call of day that the Men being PROTECTOR & PROVIDER, raise his voice loud & clear that IT IS I WHO HAD  MADE THIS WORLD LIVABLE & ORDERLY by  putting in immense Labour & hardship and I WILL NOT ALLOW TO DISCARD OR RUIN MY EFFORTS & LOBOUR on the WHIMS & FANCIES OF FEMINISTS.

COME  & FIGHT FOR MEN’s RIGHTS !

Saving the Family/Marriage – an uphill task for Indian Men

July 7, 2010

Since the beginning of civilization, a Family, the smallest & fundamental social unit of society is serving the purpose of primary training ground for nurturing physiological, emotional, social and psychological  needs/strengths of an individual irrespective of his/her gender. As Family is a strongest pillar of a society & civilization, it needs strong bonds of ethics, values & morals to remain intact and meaningful. More so, because wherever, a group of people resides together some collision in thoughts and life style bounds to happen. Therefore, family values are important and should be cherished and nurtured. Love, support, friendship, and guidance are key qualities necessary to form a strong family bond. The nation/ society having strong family system can easily absorb any external or internal trouble/threats and it icons a true vibrant society.

             India was once known for it’s very strong Joint Family System, so practiced since from ancient times and strongly interwoven by ethics & values. The family was headed by an oldest person mainly Man ( however, in some parts of India by Female) who was having responsibility as well as authority to safeguard purpose and the key qualities of family bond alongwith passing on the ethics & values over to next generations. But the in-roads (in the name of so called development) of western culture, media, equality, rights, empowerment etc. in the society has shattered this concept of Indian joint family and the nuclear family system prevailed.  

The main supporter of nuclear families is young Women of today, as today’s 99% young women are only willing to have a nuclear family on the pretext of burden of household work, harassment, ill-treatment etc. in joint family but the truth is, it gives them an unrestricted freedom of their choice beyond any ethics, values and responsibilities. The mind of these young women is more influenced by the feminists propaganda than their own grand mothers and other old females in their family. This change in mindset of young women and the added fuel to this thinking by the Government and other feminist pressure groups in the name of empowerment and equality to women coupled with enforcing of gender biased laws is the main reason of breaking of families and joint family system in India.

However, in nuclear family system too, the responsibility to keep family intact solely lies on Man only, besides his legal commitment of fulfillment of all other needs of the family. So, marriage has became a double edged sword for Men in India and Men faces a tricky situation, firstly, if he chooses a nuclear family under pressure from his wife, he is accused of leaving his parents & kin and carries this guilt for life, besides this, it gives undue elevation to the unscrupulous wife’s moral to dictate her terms and ill designs. Further, wife once successful in separating her husband from his parents and breaking the in-law’s family doesn’t stop there but instead encouraged with her this achievement she continue to adapt this strategy to make her husband to bow to her any unlawful demand(monetary, personal or social) in future. Under the threat of legal tools especially designed for her by Indian Government, husband has to obey her because the legal impunity granted to wife in India is very much clear from what even the Apex legal authority i.e. Hon’ble Supreme Court of India has reiterated to the husbands of this country time and again that “Move left if your wife says so or move to right if she desire so”.

Secondly, if he doesn’t leave his parents (because he is the one who lived with them for 25-30 years and very well know their habits & nature and is the best judge among both parents & wife), his life can be made hell easily by his empowered and legally strengthened wife, who with motives to take revenge, to secure her future and to extort money from him not only tries to teach lesson to him but to many others in his family by implicating them in various false criminal cases like dowry, domestic violence etc. which are so gender biased that they can be set into motion merely on her complaint.

In this scenario and ever increasing lust for money and power in Indian society, it becomes impossible to strengthen the bonds of ethics & values in family and the key qualities necessary to form a strong family like love, support, friendship, and guidance looks a distant dream. But strangely & ironically, everybody(judiciary, society or Government) still expects from Man, who is already in such a hot soup with social as well as legal adversities all around to save family/marriage. The Man is panelized economically, emotionally, physically and socially for any failure of marriage/family as he is the one who is supposed to and is legally made responsible to save the family / marriage. Nobody be it society, Government, judiciary or police is giving any heed to his problems/pressures but continues to pamper women on the age-old beliefs & myths. So, the big question remains in front of him is  How to save family (may be joint or nuclear) or marriage ?  All the wild blames are directed towards him but his endless sufferings goes-by unnoticed. Moreover, in this bad situation, he is being alienated more & more by gender biased laws and the only solution that emerges for Man is to say NO to marriage itself. Is this what the society, Government or feminists want ?

How, Who, When & from Where MEN got Empowered ?

July 5, 2010

The real concern worldwide is to empower women, that’s OK but it made me to think that Who, When, How & from Where MEN got empowered? But in pursuit of finding the answer to this, I am left with 10 more crucial questions which are :

       I.        Is government or society has done enough to make Men capable of discharging his (social & legal) responsibilities ?

    II.        A big NO, I can’t remember anything done to empower Men, anywhere, by any Government or anybody but yes what has been done or is being done is for Women only. Why?

       III.        Are Men born empowered ? if it is so then really Men are super natural beings but if not, why nobody ever thought of empowering  Men ?.    Or

       IV.        Does man paying price of his masculinity blessed by none other than mother Nature herself ?

       V.        Isn’t those(feminists, NCW &WCD etc.) who call Women a weaker sex are themselves believe in it and are making women more prone to ill treatment ?

      VI.        Isn’t it a reality that No gender(whether male or female) in totality (i.e. 100%) can be or is empowered by all means and each gender always consists of a section which is/remains under privileged ?

     VII.        Aren’t there, unscrupulous/oppressive persons present in both the gender ?

     VIII.       Why, in today’s time after 40-50 years of women empowerment and the focus only on women upliftment, the status of women has not reached to a fair level of equality between both the genders?

     IX.        When the under privileged section of Male gender will be empowered ?

   X.        Isn’t  enforcement of gender biased laws is a social oppression of male gender?

 If you have the answers to above questions, pl feel free to comment.

Why only Men is made responsible for Domestic Violence in India ?

June 8, 2010

I was amused as well as shocked on knowing that only Man is made responsible for Domestic Violence in India (as per DV Act,2005) by the legislatures of India but this has also forced me to do brain storming on this question (Why ?)and after analyzing the Men’s attitude and beliefs in society, I came to conclusion that it is because Most men in India

  • Are still living in the illusion that India is a male dominating society.

  • Think it below their dignity to voice for their rights.

  • Are taught to pamper woman right from birth.

  • Treats it status symbol  to talk in favor of women (without any knowledge of reality)

  • Follows the feministic fashion prevailing in society(  as they don’t want to be odd man out).

  • Don’t have courage to swim against the flow(media, feminism and pseudo empowerment etc.)

  • Do have “Chalta Hai” attitude.

  • Don’t have “M “ factor.

  • Are sex starved(being marriage age 21 and adultery, an unethical in society)

  • Are afraid of their spouse and prefers to be slave to them as suggested by Hon’ble Supreme Court.

  • Are not concerned about this issue as being busy in bread earning, maintaining and protecting their families.

Last but not least, corruption in system, decline in social character, fall in ethics & values alongwith  adulteration in food articles, pollution in environment, global warming and green house effect etc. etc. etc.

 There is still time , I urge  MEN TO AWAKE NOW and FIGHT FOR THEIR RIGHTS as this  species(real man) is already on the verge of extinction in India.

WHO CARES ?

April 29, 2010

In Independent and Free  INDIA after almost 63 years of independence and democracy WHO CARES  ?

  • Infringement of fundamental rights of equality ?
  • Laws are made gender biased?
  • Legal terrorism is promoted ?
  • Matrimonial laws are grossly misused ?
  • Marriage is made crime?
  • Extortion and blackmailing prevailing in the name of marriage ?
  • Matrimonial crimes are increasing ?
  • Institution of marriage diminishing ?
  • Where Hon’ble Supreme Court advises MEN to be slave of  wife to survive ?
  • Smallest unit of democracy – Families- are breaking?
  • Elders are abused and harassed ?
  • Values, respect & ethics in society dying?
  • Injustice & iniquity done to innocent husbands and in-laws?
  • Innocents are jailed in false dowry complaints ?
  • Any unnatural death of women is termed as Dowry Death ?
  • Innocent husbands are suciding ?
  • Husbands are treated as Free ATM machines ?
  • Legal or illegal,1st , 2nd or 3rd , legitimate or ill legitimate every wife & sibling is made entitled for Maintenance from husband?
  • Maintenance to wife, even if, she earns more than her husband?
  • Maintenance to wife even if more qualified than her husband?
  • Husband & only husband is responsible for domestic violence ?
  • Legalized the Hounor Killings of husband & in-laws?
  • Fathers, Son sand husbands are in deep agony?
  • Mother & sisters are sobbing and harassed?
  • Murderers of husband (wife and in-laws)are let off free ?
  • Child is forced to be fatherless?
  • Fathers are striving to see their siblings ?
  • Indian Society is being made a fatherless society ?
  • Failed marriage is made crime of husband ?
  • There is separate ministry even for Animals but for MEN there is none ?
  • Men’s sufferings goes unnoticed ?
  • Young India is entangled in family & criminal courts ?
  • Young brain, mind  & energy is trapped in legal procedures and judicial paradigm ?
  • Legalizing Gay-marriages?
  • Legalizing live-in relationship?
  • Legalizing pre-marital sex ?
  • Adultery by female is not a crime?

Above all, this in the name of WOMAN EMPOWERMENT which is producing more & more empowered women like Madhuri & Ayesha.

Phir Bhi MERA BHARAT MAHAN per kab tak …………. ?